What about before the first kiss, the difficulty you experienced in expressing your desire to be intimate with her?
Do you still remember that burning feeling you had, and how unhappy you are when you don’t see her for a long time?
What about the first time you FINALLY made love to her on your wedding day, the impatience to consummate your marriage that wedding night?
If you have been married for over a year, no doubt, those feelings may have started giving way.
For many Nigerian men who have married for several years, those beautiful memories may have faded away completely. But if your marriage still makes you happy, these are some of the most memorable events during your courtship and union.
For some other group of men, who suddenly discovers the true identity of their wives, they may be wondering why they got themselves married to this individual in the first place.
Many marriages today are having problems or simply growing stale because the initial love that was once enjoyed is no longer alive. This is because many couples are not making serious efforts to ignite the sparks of love in their marriages.
The truth is, there are still happy marriages today who have lasted beyond 25 years. If you ask these older couple the reason why they are still happily married you will be surprised that these successful marriages all have few things in common.
Things like the following factors are common denominators.
The above factors are deliberate actions taken by the couples to ensure a successful marriage.
There’s one thing that many troubled marriages are ignoring. They forget that successful or happy marriages do not happen by accident, they are deliberately planned.
If you are having problems keeping the love in your marriage alive, know that you are not alone. In fact there are hundreds of thousands of homes in Nigeria battling the same problem.
The good news is that you can still enjoy a lasting and very successful marriage if you make the effort.
Do you remember the questions I asked when I started this article?
Those questions bring to mind those things men do when they are still interested in a woman.
If you want the love in your marriage to keep burning, then you must device ways to bring back the youthful activities boyfriends do to their girlfriends before marriage.
What are those things? Well we are all men, we know them. But as a reminder here they are:
- Spending Time Together
In your present marriage, how often do you take your wife out to a nice restaurant, or a good hotel outside the home to sleep? Do you still hold hands in public while walking together?
- Woo Your Wife
This reminds them that you still love them. Women love intimacy just as they love lovemaking. A woman is more receptive to your sexual advances if you regularly show affection to her in the way of embrace, holding hands etc.
Do no let your business or job interfere with your marriage. While at work, find 2 minutes to send your wife romantic text messages.
- Surprise Your Wife With Gifts
Get these things when you are coming home from work. Women and children love it. In fact, these actions keep your wife expecting you everyday and makes you a loving husband.
- Play Games together
- Give Your Wife a Satisfying Sex
One thing that can make a woman to continue to love and enjoy her marriage is her husband’s ability to satisfy her and bring her to a glowing orgasm each time they make love.
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- Let Your Wife Be Your Best Friend
Discuss your finances, business growth, activities in the office, the girls you admire and even the temptations you faced in the office. Sometimes, a woman’s input in her husbands affairs turns out to be the best advice the man can get. I have seen this happen many times in my own marriage.
This doesn’t mean the wife makes decisions for you, the wife suggests, and it is your responsibility to take it or not and when you are not taking the advice from your wife, let her know your reasons.
- Let God Be In Your Marriage
This will mean praying together, going to place of worship together and discussing how the lessons learned in the church or Mosque help in keeping your marriage.
Don’t forget that marriage is what you make of it. A happy marriage doesn’t happen automatically. But if you work at it and put in sufficient effort, you will be blessed with the results.
Then, the fairy tale stories that usually ends with the slogan: “And they Lived Happily Ever After” can then be applied to your marriage for as long as you live.
I wish you all success in your marriages and relationships.
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