SILLY BAD HABITS THAT CAN HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

All of us have a few bad habits that we don’t realize. Sometimes, these habits could be silly or cute.
But at most other times, these subconscious bad habits could end up hurting you or distancing you from the one you love.

When you fall in love with someone, you can’t see their bad habits, at least not until you’re past the stage of infatuation. And likewise, your partner won’t see the bad in you because they’re so smitten by you and your love for them. But once the rose tinted veil of infatuation sweeps past your eyes, it’s only then that the nagging habits start to reveal themselves.

See these bad habits to know if you’re hurting your lover without realizing it.

1. YOUR WAY.

Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or going out to places that you like. Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!

2. SILENT TREATMENT.

Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time.

3. "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT".

Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

4. YOU LIE.

For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life.

5. MAKING A SCENE IN PUBLIC.

Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon.

6. TAKEN FOR GRANTED.

You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you? You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead!

7.  TESTING YOUR PARTNER.
You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover.

8. PLEASING YOUR LOVE.

You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr. If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser.

10 Things That Will End A Relationship Before It Begins.

Sometimes we destroy them before they even come to be. We’re just so excited about this new person, this new prospect, that we just want to jump to the end where everyone is happy and in love. And in doing that, we ruin the whole thing. If this hasn’t happened to you yet, keep doing what you’re doing and avoid doing these things. And to those who have done one, or some, or all of these things — I feel you. I really do.

Here are 10 things that will end a relationship before it begins:

(1): Falling too hard, too fast — and telling It OuT: And sometimes you later realize that you weren’t actually in love — you just really wanted to be. It’s okay to fall in love, but don’t say anything until you’re sure that’s what you’re really feeling, and wait a little bit. Don’t rush these great times, these beginning stages where you get to know someone and sometimes you can’t even look at them directly because they’re so goddamn cute.
Stop, take a deep breath, and enjoy it.

2. Worrying about the future
“Are we going to last? Is this the person I’m going to marry? Will my parents like them? Will they like my parents? ,this could eventually change ur views on something u hav not even tested..And sometimes you get all negative about it because u feel alot is gonna go wrong in the future(when you have not even started anything).

3. Over analyzing everything: 

Texting has ruined a lot about dating. We’re so careful now about what we text and when we want to describe to our friends how our interactions with dudes go, we simply copy/paste the text to every friend. And usually, each friend comes back with an entirely different interpretation. And it’s a mess. And you’ll start to think of all the little things that happened that you know aren’t important, but now that you’re spiraling into this insecure place, you’re telling your friend, “He took me to a casual restaurant without waiters, he’s totally not into me, is he?” THIS GETS YOU NOWHERE, STOP.

4. Having “the relationship talk” WAY too soon:
Oh God nothing kills the relationship like talking about the relationship. It makes sense if you’ve been together for a few months and you want to know if you’re going to be exclusive, and how do you feel about what we have going on here, and so forth. But if you’ve been on 2 dates and you’re having this talk, it’s going to end badly.

5. Being too familiar and too intimate (in a non-sexy way)
I know it’s exciting at the thought of meeting his/her friends and/or family, but it’s a little weird if you try to force it. If you ask him, “How’s your sis, Naomie?” when he/she hasn’t even mentioned his/her, but you know she exists because you saw her on Facebook. That throws people off. And by being too intimate, I mean, doing bf/gf-y things when you’ve only gone on 1 date. On your second date, if you jump into his arms and call him pet names and stuffs lik dat.Its not appropriate.

6. Making or planning big events or trips too far ahead
It’s like you’re challenging the universe to break you up. Oh, your cousin’s getting married in about a year? Better let them know that even though you just met this dude last week and he seems cool, you’re gonna need a plus one.

7:Asking them almost every day what their plans are and if they’d like to hang out/go out:

Its cool to want to knw,but hey Give em some space, Relationships get broken up because of this reasons,and you are not yet in the relationship  and you are already acting this way???? Hey stop it..its a big turn-off..

8. Getting caught Facebook stalking them or their ex: 

We all do it, just don’t get caught. If you do, it’s nearly impossible to get over. They have to have a really good sense of humor, and you have to be breezy about it. But for some people, this can end it immediately. To them, it suggests that you’re insecure.

9. Texting or calling too frequently:Hey its not cool,its a no-go, , I’m not asking you to shut it down. I’m asking you to take a moment and think, “Do I really need to text this?” Is it to confirm plans? Go for it. Are you sharing an inside joke? Go for it. Are you telling them you had a great time? Go for it. But do not go for it every day. And do not text things that won’t go anywhere. Things like, “Hey! What’s up?” “Oh, nothing, you?” “Just chilling.” “Cool.” I mean come on, what is anyone supposed to do with that? And if you do that several times a day, it gets really annoying, really fast.

10. Being available all the time
If you’re available a lot, that’s fine. But don’t let anyone know that. You want people (and not just people you want to date and have sexy times with) to think that you’ve got a life full of important and fabulous things to do. And if you’ve got too much time on your hands, then find something to do. Clean your apartment. Make plans to see that friend you haven’t seen in years — and actually do it. Make your own schedule.

I hope you learned from this.

7 WAYS TO TELL YOUR CRUSH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM

Ladies love men that are bold and not afraid of saying what's on their mind,and most ladies feel its wrong to tell a guy how they feel,the truth is! You can't get his attention by just sitting if you really like him.

So, if u ever feel that way about someone ,here are a few tips on how to tell him/her.

1.Get to know your crush enough so that he/she knows you exist.Carry conversations with them every now and then.

2.Get to know his/her interests.Sharing common ground allows him/her to see that you're open to their ideas. Be sure not to insult their interests unless it's in a teasing way (don't be harsh!).

3.Casually flirt with him/her.When you feel comfortable, remember to smile

4. Remember that looking approachable is essential: Dress nice and smell good. Be sure to wear something you feel is comfortable. If you know their favourite smell or colour, be sure to wear that. Good hygiene is also a must. Would you like to date someone with smelly armpits?

5. Be yourself:
If you're a funny person, use that to your advantage! If you're a big sports fan and you know they are as well, all the better. Share those common interests and use them to your advantage.

6. Just tell him/her: Sometimes it's better to just let your crush know you like them by telling them how you feel. Just ask them out! The worst they can most likely do is say no.

7. Don't get crushed by a crush.Sometimes it just isn't meant to be. But stay positive and remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea!

And while flirting here are a few tips to keep you goin.

* Eye contact is essential. Don't stare at your feet or shyly stare behind them!

**Whenever you see him/her, it's important to smile and greet them.

*** Smile frequently(not too much because it could seem creepy!).

****Always look your best! Girls: Of course, don't wear too much make up/scents as some men find it unattractive.

***** If he/she passes you in the hall, it's important to take note of their next class. If a friend has the same class, casually talk to them and include your crush in the conversation.

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Story of A Broken heart

I knew this day would come. It’d been a long time coming. I saw it as clear as the sun in the blue skies, but I had chosen to turn a blind eye. I refused to acknowledge what was in front of me…staring me in the face. Not sure when it all began really, but the signs had been there. I’d ignored it for so long, the lines between my reality and make believe world had blended nicely. I was wrapped in a cocoon of falsehood choosing to lay there content, afraid of being a butterfly and flying away. I was afraid my wings would be too fragile to carry me away from this nightmare that had become my life.

I realised a little too late that he had always been this way even when we just met. Mean, abusive and demanding, but oh so subtly. Loving with one hand and killing with the other. Bode, my lover, my enemy.

I hated him. I hated that I loved him so. I hated what he did to me.

His charm had swept me off my feet; I was enamoured, held captive by his sweet words and boyish charms. Those eyes that made me drown in their depths and his sense of humour. For a very long time I lived in a bubble, a fantasy, Bode could do no wrong in my eyes. Apparently, other people saw what I couldn’t see and told me to be careful. I looked at some of them like they were crazy and the others like they had pure undiluted envy flowing through their veins. I’d found happiness and they weren’t happy for me. Bode! Bode?

How could I have known? I was young and naïve. He was a bit older, I didn’t mind. It just made him more attractive to me. Elegant and suave, I was proud to tell anyone who would have cared to listen just how perfect he was.

At first it was the temper tantrums and unnecessary demands. It seemed odd to me, Bode didn’t get angry or did he? I lied to myself. I’d lied to myself for a long time; I couldn’t separate truth from lie anymore. I told myself it was the pressure at work making him act that way, then came the verbal abuses, I was called all kinds of names, mean nasty names, I’d break down in tears and he’d come cooing sweet nothings about how sorry he was. It was a bitter-sweet love-hate relationship. And then he changed.

He became the Bode I knew once again, charming and loving. This went on just for a short while until the something I must have done obviously flipped the switch again. Or so he said. The first slap came not quite too long after, and things just spiraled out of control. I was still in denial, praying and hoping that the Bode I knew would surface. I didn’t recognize this monster. No, this wasn’t my Bode.

It wasn’t until I was it the hospital, treating multiple bruises and a fractured collar bone , having undergone minor surgery to right a tooth that had twisted unnaturally did the scales fall from my eyes. I woke up to see my friend looking down at me with tears in her eyes, thanking God that I didn’t die, begging me to never go back to him, it was a good thing we weren’t married.

She didn’t need to. My mind was made up, I’d lost my faith somewhere along the line, forgotten what it was like to pray. I was broken on the inside as much as on the outside. Pain had become my friend; I welcomed it with both arms wide open. I was lucky to be alive. I shut my eyes and for the first time in a long while I muttered a word of prayer, I wondered if God heard me. I pray he did; at this point all I needed was a miracle.

Signs To Help You Know If A Girl Have A Crush On You

Understanding women does require a special tech. In this article i shall point out a few signs to show a lady is in love....If u see this signs do not hesitate to express your feelings towards her.. SIGNALS TO WATCH OUT FOR:. . .

(1).CARING:
 She gives you attention just like a mother toward her child It is natural that every woman has motherly affection. Therefore, when she falls in love, this kind of maternal behavior will arise unconsciously. Do not be surprised if she suddenly becomes very concerned, even nags you with a lot of small things. She may suddenly feel uneasy to see the stains on your clothes, or feel worried when you are eating too much junk food. Try to respond her attention with gratitude. Do things that she suggests to show that you take her advice seriously. Give her little compliment and by saying, "Wow, you could be a good mother." or such. Observe her reaction, and be ready to confess your feelings if you see that she looks happy because of your compliment..

(2). EYE CONTACTS:
Notice the intensity of her eye contact Women who are in love will try to steal a glance at your eyes. In some cases for a shy woman, her face will turn red and abruptly turned away when you realize that she was watching over your face. Try also to look at her straight in the eyes when conversing. If you feel there is some kinds of electricity that goes behind your back while looking into her eyes, it is most likely that the chemistry between two of you has been established. It's just a matter of time to confess your feeling toward her at the right moment.

(3). SENSE OF HAPPINESS:
She looks happy when she is with you A woman would show a bright facial expression when she is with her loved ones. Just try to observe her eyes, smile, and her gestures. If she looks more cheerful and her eyes shine brighter it is likely a sign that she enjoys to be at your side. Note also if she talks and laughs a lot, it can be a significant sign that she loves you. When she is sad or depressed, try to approach and cheer her. If you notice that her expression suddenly becomes brighter, it is likely that you are the man who is expected by her.

(4).BEING IMPRESSIVE:
 She tries to impress you physically by dressing better Note also the style of her dress and hair. If you realize that a woman tries hard to impress you with their dresses, hairstyle, accessories, and her physical attractions, it is likely she wants to get your attention. Not just dresses, you can also observe on the use of make-up as well as the length of time she needs to prepare herself before meeting you. If you are aware of this fact, do not miss the opportunity to compliment her looks. Give compliment to her dresses, her make-up, or her new hair style. Make her feels that her effort to impress you is paid-off. This kind of behavior also makes her realize that you give special attention toward her.

(5).KEEN INTEREST IN PERSONAL LIFE STYLE:
She shows some interest toward you hobby and favorite activities You might encounter a situation when suddenly a woman starts to listen to the songs that you like or ask a lot of questions about your hobbies. She also asks you to be involved in your favorite activities and happily shows enthusiasm towards them. Be cautious boys, this might be a sign that she is in love with you. If a woman suddenly shows interest in the game that you play, your favorite TV shows, or activity that you usually do, it is likely that she wants to spend some time with you. It also a sign that she wants to be involved in your life and want to know you more personally by doing those activities.

(6).ALWAYS WANTING TO TALK TO YOU:
She takes the initiative to start a conversation Usually under a normal conditions, men is the one who takes the initiative in a conversation. They do it by asking numerous polite questions and raised a particular topic as the theme of conversation. If you suddenly feel that she is more "aggressive" than usual in a conversation, it is possible that she develops an interest towards you. A woman who is in love would continue to spend a lot of time talking to you. They want to be in the conversation as long as possible.

Therefore, when the conversation stops, she will try to find a new topic so that both of you can continue talking.

Foods That Enhances Your Libido!

A lot of Nigerian men are having problems with lasting longer. It is also true that some have been able to hold themselves for long with the natural products that are on sale on this blog.

However, there are times that even after you have mastered the art of lasting longer, your ability to last longer starts to deteriorate. Some of the reasons for this may be from loss of essential nutrients in the body that helps libido.

According to a medical record, it says that when the brain is deficient with some chemicals, your sex drive is highly affected, however, if you increase the intake of some of these nutrients, you will improve your sex drive and be able to balance the brain chemistry.

Here are the various deficiencies that can affect your sex drive and how to deal or cure then naturally.

1. Lack of Libido
When you have low libido, you may be lacking the brain chemical called Dopamine. To get more supply of Dopamine, you need to eat lean proteins that can be found in foods like eggs, beans, fish, diary products, etc.
2. Arousal Problems
If you are having problem with arousal or lubrication, you may lack the brain chemical called Acetylcholine. To get adequate supply of this chemical from foods, you need to eat legumes, eggs, and whole grains.
3. Orgasm Problems
If you’re unable to achieve orgasm, it could be that your brain chemical Amino-butyric acid may be unbalanced. To fix this problem eat foods rich in fibers, like whole grain foods like brown rice, cereals, oats, millet, etc
Other Sex Boosting Foods Are
Nuts
Examples are Cashew, Peanuts (Groundnuts), Almonds, Walnuts. In fact, these food group are responsible for the essential fatty acids that helps keep the brain alert. Almonds particularly is known to arouse passion in women, whereas other nuts are known to boost testosterone, male fertility sex cell.
Apples
According to a doctor, apples contain a chemical that gives one a natural feeling of excitement and well-being, and this helps in stimulating the mind for sex activities.
Avocado
This fine fruit contains Vitamin B6 which helps to increase testosterone and potassium levels, and this also regulates the thyroids which boosts libido.
Fish
Fish are known to contain Omega 3 fatty acids which allows the free flow of blood because of prevention of plaques along the walls of the arteries.
Other Aphrodisaic foods are:

• Garlic
• Sweet potatoes
• Pumpkin Leaves
• Lobsters
• Shrimps
• Crustaceans
• Oyster
• A little wine
• Chicken Breasts
• Olive oil
• Bananas
• Grapes
• etc

If you have used the information in the Last Longer Guide here, and you are still have problems with your libido, it could be that your body needs an extra supply of the natural chemicals present in the foods above.

Just start eating them for the next 2 months or more and you will see significant changes. However, if after trying these and you see no result, it could be a serious health problem. At this point, I will ask that you see your doctor for recommendation of a possible solution.

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Newly discovered errors people make in using a condom

Putting on a condom may seem second nature to you by now, but are you actually doing it the right way? Sadly fellas, the latest research suggests you might not be. Researchers from Indiana University analyzed 50 studies on condom usage, and after punching the numbers on 16 years of data, they found a laundry list of errors. Could you be making one of them? Check out the top 15 things that couples are doing wrong when gearing up for getting down.

 Late application: Across the numerous studies, between 17 percent and 51.1 percent of people reported putting a condom on after intercourse has already begun. Early removal: Between 13.6 percent and 44.7 percent of the respondents reported removing the condom before intercourse was complete.

 Completely unrolling the condom prior to application: Between 2.1 percent and 25.3 percent of people admitted to completely unrolling the condom before sliding it on. No space at the tip:

Failing to leave space for semen at the tip of the condom was reported by 24.3 to 45.7 percent of the respondents. Failure to remove air: When looking back to their last sexual encounter, 48.1 percent of women and 41.6 percent of men reported that they didn't squeeze the air from the tip before use.

 Inside-out condoms: Between 4 percent and 30.4 percent of participants reported they began rolling the condom on inside out, but then flipped it over and continued its use. And that's bad, since it can expose her to your pre-ejaculatory fluids, which can get her pregnant.

 Failure to completely unroll the condom before use: When looking back to their last sexual encounter, 11.2 percent of women and 8.8 percent of men had began intercourse before the condom was unrolled all the way.

Exposure to sharp object: Between 2.1 percent and 11.2 percent of people had opened condom packets with sharp objects. The problem: If it's sharp enough to rip the wrapper, it's sharp enough to rip the condom.

 Failure to check for damage: When removing the condom from the package, 82.7 percent of women and 74.5 percent of men reported that they fail to check for damage before use.

What to look for: Make sure the wrapper isn't worn down or ripped open, keep your eyes peeled for expired dates, and check for visible imperfections while unrolling.

 No lubrication: Between 16 percent and 25.8 percent of people reported using condoms without lubrication. The trouble? If you're having sex for an extended period of time, the condom is more likely to tear without lubrication. 

Lubrication complications: Roughly 3.2 percent of women and 4.7 percent of men reported using an oil-based lube with a latex condom. That weakens the latex, which can make it prone to breakage.

 Incorrect withdrawal: Nearly 31 percent of men and 27 percent of women reported that (post-sex) they failed to promptly and properly withdraw after ejaculation. Reusing a condom: Between 1.4 percent and 3.3 percent of people reported reusing a condom at least twice during a sexual encounter. Gross.

 Incorrect storage: Between 3.3 percent and 19.1 percent of people in the studies had stored their condoms in conditions that did not comply with the recommendations on the package. Avoid storing them in direct sunlight or your wallet-both can degrade the latex. 

Not wearing one at all:This wasn't actually part of the study, but we should add that #15 is this: Not using one at all. According to the (most recent) National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, only 45 percent of men ages 18 to 24 used a condom with their last sexual partner. And as the age groups increased, the stats only got worse: Only 29.3 percent of men ages 25 to 34 used condoms and 21.3 percent of men between ages 35 and 44.